Tuesday, June 16, 2009

No, tell me how you really feel

Over the past few months, I’ve been working diligently with Kate on “feelings” and “feeling words”. Apparently growing up without unimpeded access to your emotions contains dire consequences. Yes, you might turn out to be a self-deprecating, procrastinating, over-committing, neurotic, Banana Republic loving, over-achieving, Jack Johnson adoring, organic food eating, crazed lunatic. Or, so I’ve been told. Suffice to say, this is an area that does not really come all that naturally to me.

In an effort to compensate for that shortcoming and my lack of role model status in this area, I’ve made a concerted effort to regularly talk about feelings and interject feeling-related jargon into typical conversations with Kate. In fact, I’ve been very self-help book sounding as I’ve relentlessly prodded my 3-year old to ackowledge and divulge her current emotional state.

I think this might be an area that comes naturally to her.

Case in point:

This evening, we were outside swinging on her playset. I was on one swing and she was on the other side, being pushed by Craig. She takes great delight in our synchronized swinging and is forever attempting to swing higher than her mother. At least we know her competitive gene hasn’t been mutated by all of this feeling nonsense, right?

ME: Kate, I think you are swinging higher.
KATE: No, I think you are swinging higher.
ME: No Kate, you are swinging higher.
KATE: Don’t say that mom.
ME: What? Why?
KATE: That’s annoying. Stop saying that.
ME: What?!?!?
KATE: Stop, stop saying that; its annoying.


Ann's Rants said...

Great post. I love your light-touch with the self-deprecation. Very funny.

I also like how your blog is consistent...telling the story of raising Kate.

I'm too tired to be commenting, so this may seem random.

Just a couple more reasons why I like your blog.

Anonymous said...

what a nut. i miss her!

C. Beth said...

Chickie's started doing more of this too, telling me not to say specific things.

It's very annoying and I wish she'd stop it. :)

Call Me Cate said...

Hahaha, Kate... Maybe you should just let her bottle those feelings up instead of sharing. Or, you know, stop annoying her.

IB said...

Well, at least she talks to you. Our son is of the age where we need to interpret how he is feeling by subtle changes in his nearly lifeless facial expression. "Look honey, Was that a slight up-turn of his mouth that might indicate he is pleased with us? Was that the micro-suggestion of anger? Could he bored? Is he sick?"

And so on.

Michel said...

hahaha! She's totally preparing YOU for when she's a teen and you REALLY do annoy her.

She's way cute though. You should probably just let her have whatever she wants!

Grand Pooba said...

Well at least she's honest right? Ha ha ha, that is so cute, in a sassy kinda way.

Kasha said...

The dialogue between you and your daughter is hilarious! Thanks for the laugh!

Jeanne said...

She is such a spunky little thing! (And stop annoying her, would you?)