tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post5574800308879340969..comments2023-09-13T04:38:41.165-04:00Comments on I Used To Be Witty ...: Where I address the obvious...Lyndsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18207977772754943743noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-53521001745227371382009-04-21T01:39:00.000-04:002009-04-21T01:39:00.000-04:00From someone with NO children.....
"I'll forgive y...From someone with NO children.....<br />"I'll forgive you for asking such a personal question if you'll forgive me for not answering it."margnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-33420447553667434722009-04-19T12:38:00.000-04:002009-04-19T12:38:00.000-04:00I think older generations (boomers and up) don't r...I think older generations (boomers and up) don't realize how widespread infertility issues are. I've had more friends with fertility problems than "normal" friends and it is astounding to me. What are we doing to ourselves as a species????<br /><br />I'm so sorry you struggle with this. I decided long ago to never ask anyone about children because you never know what they may be dealing with.Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06147485139886721731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-10227902041990626112009-04-18T12:51:00.000-04:002009-04-18T12:51:00.000-04:00I have three girls and people ask me all the time ...I have three girls and people ask me all the time if I'm going to try for a boy. I always reply, "I did, three times."Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462970617838700752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-78465978535199500172009-04-17T22:46:00.000-04:002009-04-17T22:46:00.000-04:00Great post! Thanks for sharing something so perso...Great post! Thanks for sharing something so personal. I hate these questions, but your answers are great.Annjehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315067950686666022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-25126414812438085802009-04-17T21:35:00.000-04:002009-04-17T21:35:00.000-04:00you could say "we didn't even have the first one, ...you could say "we didn't even have the first one, we just grabbed her and ran!"<br /><br />or a creepy answer: "i actually used to have 7. we haven't been grocery shopping for a year and a half! all we need is the tomato sauce"<br /><br />or an aggro answer for when they say "why don't you have more children" you could say "i was terrified they would end up as stupid as you".Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18436931734072282415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-17133420410730589772009-04-17T21:34:00.000-04:002009-04-17T21:34:00.000-04:00Lyndsay:
I like Marinka's response. When (the o...Lyndsay: <br /><br />I like Marinka's response. When (the ones who are KNOW are being rude) you are asked, just respond, "Glad you asked me a question. My turn. How much money do you make?" This, done with a smile, usually will shut them up. Then there are one who don't realize the pain these questions could bring, and often think they are just making conversation. To those I would respond something along the lines of, "You'll hear." Or perhaps a simple, "That's personal, and I'm not up to discussing that." Leave them a graceful response and they will get the hint it is not a good topic.<br /><br />How's my girl? I had such a great time with her this week. xoxo<br /><br />SherrySherry Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07618925550992413565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-16591052889476078092009-04-17T20:16:00.000-04:002009-04-17T20:16:00.000-04:00You have some great answers!
I am raising an onl...You have some great answers! <br /><br />I am raising an only daughter. We have so much time for each other. It's great. I cannot imagine what our relationship would be like if I had another one, which I won't, too old and divorced. We are very happy!Everyday Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00486528297252417282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-43014979003390014522009-04-17T20:10:00.000-04:002009-04-17T20:10:00.000-04:00One could be: Oh, we're going to see if she's coll...One could be: Oh, we're going to see if she's college material before birthing another one.<br /><br />LOL or "OH, I didn't know you were baby sitting services for free by you asking me that question."<br /><br />People are nasty no matter what. If you do the right thing or the wrong thing. People by nature are curious beings so feel that others need thier two cents brilliance.MarjnHomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331096530421066392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-18267968155495242302009-04-17T18:26:00.000-04:002009-04-17T18:26:00.000-04:00How about "Well, we wanted to, but the judge issue...How about "Well, we wanted to, but the judge issued an injunction"?<br /><br />BTW -- I raised a single, perfect daughter, and I couldn't be happier with the results.Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-13523576072383064132009-04-17T18:03:00.000-04:002009-04-17T18:03:00.000-04:00Great post. Stumbled you.
I'm sorry that it's bee...Great post. Stumbled you.<br /><br />I'm sorry that it's been so hard, and that people are so obtuse. I don't understand why people think it's their business, or right to know. By the way, what's your bank PIN?Marinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16489592695993949578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-3093482342510192012009-04-17T17:53:00.001-04:002009-04-17T17:53:00.001-04:00So I'm wanting to try some new wines. Any suggest...So I'm wanting to try some new wines. Any suggestions?Grand Poobahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18223439935987831945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-58744818692834673292009-04-17T17:53:00.000-04:002009-04-17T17:53:00.000-04:00After being married for 7 years and no kids yet, I...After being married for 7 years and no kids yet, I get asked "So when are you going to have a kid?" ALL the time!<br /><br />After trying to explain to so many people why we are waiting or coming up with some excuse. I now have a one word response to that question.<br /><br />"tomorrow"Grand Poobahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18223439935987831945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-46701557571364083852009-04-17T16:39:00.000-04:002009-04-17T16:39:00.000-04:00Another popular saying is:
We don't need an heir ...Another popular saying is:<br /><br />We don't need an heir and a spare.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16651032248422757278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-37089520417149089012009-04-17T16:38:00.000-04:002009-04-17T16:38:00.000-04:00Lyndsay, I am so sorry to hear about all of this. ...Lyndsay, I am so sorry to hear about all of this. I really feel for you-secondary infertility is so much more common that people realize, and also so much less understood (you already had one baby, why can't you have another?) Well exhibit A: young couple gets pregnant accidentally after only 5 months of marriage (while on birth control!) and figures they must be super-fertile. Nope, here I am with my 4.5 daughter and that's it. <br /><br />If having another child is truly what you want, I hope with all my heart that you and Craig are blessed with that. But having an only child isn't the worst thing in the world either, which is something I have come to grips with over the last few years. It's one of the last remaining "acceptable" stereotypes though, so prepare yourself for a lot more helpful comments from the general public. Most people cannot wrap their heads around the concept that we are okay with 1 child and enjoying our lives. My husband is gone a lot too (Army) and sometimes I truly couldn't imagine having another child to care for without him around and no family to help me.<br /><br />Sorry to share so much of my personal story, just want to let you know that I understand, kind of.<br /><br />PS. If people ask me if I have more kids, I always say that Laura is the youngest of 8.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16651032248422757278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-8885574944157516702009-04-17T15:55:00.000-04:002009-04-17T15:55:00.000-04:00Also, “Oh, we already have another one. I just kee...Also, “Oh, we already have another one. I just keep forgetting where I left him. Adjusting to two has been so hard.”<br /><br />YES!MShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17291647393381078597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-40327292207845449472009-04-17T15:54:00.000-04:002009-04-17T15:54:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry to hear something like this has been ...I'm so sorry to hear something like this has been bugging you. It can be really hard to respond to because most people mean well, but really....<br /><br />If someone's particularly pushy and deserving, how about a response like "We're not sure. When are you going to lose that extra weight?" or something along those lines. A little snippy, sure, but it would get the job done.<br /><br />Hang in there!MShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17291647393381078597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-74669694319594836862009-04-17T15:38:00.000-04:002009-04-17T15:38:00.000-04:00I get tired of the questions too! My lil man is th...I get tired of the questions too! My lil man is the same age as Kate and while we don't have the health issues that you have dealt with we just honestly don't know if two kids is right for us. But try to get our families to understand that!!!Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08478671585851158739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-67297021330924411262009-04-17T15:06:00.001-04:002009-04-17T15:06:00.001-04:00Love it and I can relate easily! The last year ha...Love it and I can relate easily! The last year has been nothing but a 'next baby' interview at every family event. At Christmas, my cousin (whom I see maybe twice a year!) asked me when the next one was coming, before she even said Merry Christmas!<br />My favorite response is: "As soon as I start liking the first one." It usually gets a good look of "Is she joking or not?"Erinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-11933164433978877072009-04-17T15:06:00.000-04:002009-04-17T15:06:00.000-04:00This is a great post. I think I learned a little ...This is a great post. I think I learned a little about shutting up and not asking so many questions, when we chose to wait several years to have kids. I got so tired of fending off well-meaning people who wanted us to start our families. Having a miscarriage and realizing how common that is, helped me understand too.<br /><br />I like all of your answers. :)C. Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644509313017237164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-4891308612838792662009-04-17T14:37:00.000-04:002009-04-17T14:37:00.000-04:00Very poignant post. No easy answers, but I like th...Very poignant post. No easy answers, but I like the ones you've come up with.<br /><br />The old shrug/smile but not with the eyes often sends a clear message.Ann Imighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01383249597505013239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-17504921001057048072009-04-17T14:16:00.000-04:002009-04-17T14:16:00.000-04:00my parents used the one about how i was perfect. ...my parents used the one about how i was perfect. only problem was that they also said that to *me*!!<BR><BR>it bugs me a bit when people ask us when we're going to have kids. We haven't decided. I refuse to discuss it and tell people not to ask me until i've finished my doctorate...Rachel Cotterillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08969719330048416996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-29418475111643986242009-04-17T13:56:00.000-04:002009-04-17T13:56:00.000-04:00Oh, Lyndsay... I get similar questions. We've bee...Oh, Lyndsay... I get similar questions. We've been married ten years and have no children. What is WRONG with us? Don't I feel pathetic that my <EM>baby</EM> sister has a child and I don't? Am I just too selfish? Are we ever going to get around to it?<br /><br />Right, it couldn't at all be that I'm terrified and have medical issues and other issues that I just don't want to broadcast. It must be something simple so please keep asking me about it! It's sure to make me feel better and more secure about the situation.<br /><br />I've run out of good excuses and answers. In fact, I've run out of polite responses. I might borrow some of yours that are applicable. <br /><br />You could also tell them you gave Kate the choice between a baby bro/sis or a goldfish and she chose a goldfish.Call Me Catehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15144735845209334875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-75717761930046904402009-04-17T13:49:00.000-04:002009-04-17T13:49:00.000-04:00I find you wonderfully honest. I love the way tha...I find you wonderfully honest. I love the way that you use words. Thanks for sharing with the www. What a great way to say what you want (or don't want) and not worry about offending someone. Here's my pick for your reponse when asked - <br /><br />"We can’t decide if we want a boy or a girl, so we are going to wait until we can make up our mind.”Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00020984792748382010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9056035148697929273.post-86575499925843531512009-04-17T13:42:00.000-04:002009-04-17T13:42:00.000-04:00Perfect post...I think we all have something like ...Perfect post...I think we all have something like this in our lives, yet we still feel compelled to ask others because if we did not ask it might seem like we don't care, but if we cared, would we ask?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com